Are you stuck in a relationship which hurts and makes you unhappy? Maybe you are scared to break up with your boyfriend because you have invested your time and effort just to make it work. You are probably worried about your chances of finding love when you quit, so you are not sure if it is the right time to break up with him.
Whatever your reason may be, staying in a toxic relationship and hoping it will turn it into a lovely one in future, will make you settle for less and be unhappy. When you see these six signs in your relationship, it is time to say goodbye.
1. An Abusive Partner
This is a No-Go Zone. Abuse can be physical, verbal, sexual or emotional. When your boyfriend hits or verbally assaults you with the slightest provocation, it is important to make a choice between your life and your relationship with him. When someone loves you, they will not hit or harm you.
If he reacts uncontrollably when offended and constantly makes you feel uneasy in his presence, it is a bad sign. Emotional abuse can be traumatizing and injurious to your mental health and well-being.
Never be tempted to think an abusive partner cares about you; he does not care about how you feel and could become an abusive husband in future. If he is abusive as a boyfriend, imagine the physical pain and mental trauma you will experience when you get married to him. It is difficult to change abusive people. If you do not leave the relationship, you may not live to tell your story after more episodes of abuse.
2. You Constantly Struggle for Attention
Are you constantly struggling for recognition and attention? Some relationships are one-sided because the other partner is always at the receiving end and not willing to give.
When you feel you are forcing your boyfriend to stay in the relationship, it is time to let go.
Have you experienced any of the following (or similar) situations? He does not text or call unless you do, does not check-up on you or care about anything going on in your life. He does not want his friends and family to know you and keeps you away from them deliberately. He acts as if he is ashamed of you and makes excuses for not spending time with you, especially in public.
Be true to yourself, listen to your inner voice, admit how you feel and recognize your self-worth. You will realize you are better-off without the relationship.
3. You are Constantly Disrespected
A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, so do not endure disrespect from your partner. If you tolerate disrespect in a relationship while you wait for the person to change, you are in for a big surprise.
Hold on for a second and think about this: Does he embarrass or disrespect you in the presence of other people? If yes, this is one of the biggest red flags!
It may be hard to take but gross disrespect is typical of people who are arrogant and have bruised egos; they feel their pride flourishes when they show their superiority in the presence of other people.
If your partner boosts his ego by constantly saying and doing things which embarrass you and make you feel disrespected in public and even in private, have a conversation with him about it. If it persists, you do not want to live with that for the rest of your life. Walk Away!
4. He Does Not Support Your Dreams
Some women give up their dreams just to please their partners. Do not do this. A good man will encourage and support you to live your dreams in the best way possible. Some men feel threatened with the progress of their women while others are genuinely happy and proud when their partner succeeds. Do not settle with a man who feels insecure about your dreams and progress. Work on improving yourself. You can start with this FREE self improvement workbook, which I find amazing.
If your partner is getting in the way of your dreams and discourages you all the time, it is time to leave.
Do not let him get in the way of your dreams. If he continuously makes you doubt yourself and feel less about yourself, dreams and capabilities, you must not settle. You will regret the dreams not realized and the opportunities not taken in future if you compromise. Do not let anybody get in the way of your dreams.
If this describes your partner, start lacing your shoes.
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5. He is Controlling
Do you feel scared about your boyfriend’s reaction when making every single move? Does he force his decisions and opinions down your throat? Controlling people dominate, suppress and silence you in a relationship and you do not want that. If he gets angry when things are not done his way, intimidates you and questions every single move you make, it is not healthy. Do not be bullied into submission, because it can affect your self-confidence.
Love relationships are supposed to be exciting to a large extent, but if your relationship is constantly making you scared and timid, it is time to walk away. Do not wait forever pretending you can change him.
6. He Tells Everyone your Business
This is one of the most fatal signs. You have no privacy because your partner cannot resist telling his family and friends about the slightest occurrences in your relationship.
Everyone knows about your sex life, plans, fights, dates and other private conversations in your relationship. You cannot trust him to protect your secrets. What is a relationship without trust anyway?
Maybe he consults his friends and family before making every single decision in your relationship and makes abrupt changes even after both of you have taken a decision.
Nobody wants a community relationship. If your boyfriend is making your business everyone’s business and constantly sees nothing wrong with that, it is safe to show yourself the door.
What Next?
You must work towards a healthy relationship. If your partner is abusive, makes you struggle for recognition, disrespects you, discourages you from working on your dreams, is controlling and tells everyone your business, you are not in a good place.
If you experience the above signs which bring unhappiness, negative energy and low self-esteem, walk away with your head up high and save yourself a chance of a bitter life-long experience. You will meet a good man.
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